Posted by fairywings on March 14, 2006, at 23:01:15
In reply to This was soooo wierd ***pos trigger****, posted by milly on March 14, 2006, at 10:35:26
(((milly)))
I agree with everyone milly, you aren't to blame for any of this. For some reason setting boundaries is so much more difficult for some of us - maybe more accurately non-existant for some of us. It s*cks that we weren't taught that it was okay to speak up for ourselves, we were discouraged to speak up or defend ourselves, and/or we were weren't protected by the ppl who should have made us feel safe when we were younger. Freezing when we feel threatened is really hard to overcome. I wish I had an answer for that. And I agree with the others - unfortunately we don't get mad at the ppl we should get mad at, we get mad at ourselves, but you're not to blame please know that.
Why do you have only 3 appts. left?! I hope there's some way you can get more help.
fw
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