Posted by JenStar on February 23, 2006, at 0:02:37
In reply to Re: Babble triggers » orchid, posted by Pfinstegg on February 22, 2006, at 22:51:04
hi Orchid,
it's good to hear from you again! Yes, I know what you mean. Sometimes when I spend time on Babble I get too involved/interested in other posters' issues and lives, and start to re-focus on things in my own life that seem to bring me down. I get too introspective regarding transference/etc, and start to fall back into old feelings.Sometimes it feels like Babble is a huge rut to me, and if I'm not careful, I can fall into it!
But I am also aware that that sounds awful, and I don't think that way about any individual poster. The reason I DO keep coming back is that people here ARE interesting and have neat ideas, and are fun to talk to. I don't MEAN for it to sound awful.
It's just -- sometimes that all the topics here, which helpful to me in some ways, are so close to my trigger points, that it's easy for me to get sucked into emotions I don't want.
You know how they sometimes say, "dress for the job you want, not the job you have"? Sometimes I feel that I should hang out/talk with people who have already conquered problems, rather than people who are IN them. Although, again, I KNOW that sounds awful. And I LIKE the people here, the ones who have conquered and the ones still in the process of doing it. It's honest, though. Do you know what I mean? Does that make me sound mean or insensitive?
JenStar
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