Posted by happyflower on January 31, 2006, at 11:38:00
In reply to Re: Thinking about not talking about my feelings, posted by Daisym on January 29, 2006, at 20:04:57
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> But I have also felt the way you have, "I'm sorry I said anything, nothing is going to change" because it does hurt to feel something for someone when they don't/can't feel it back.
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still on the fence if I want to talk more about my feelings. I don't want to get hurt. My session is tomorrow, so I have a lot of thinking to do.If your therapist isn't open to talking about your feelings for him, or you won't use them in therapy, I can see where dropping this subject might be best.
**I think this was my first impression I got. He felt like I wanted him to agree with me about fate, which I know he won't . I had to tell him I need to talk about it, it doesn't matter if he agrees or not. I told him if I believed I have creatures from outterspace living with me, and he doesn't beleive me, it doesn't mean that we can't talk about it, can we? LOL
I don't happen to believe that he isn't connected to you, I think that the feelings are your side are different. It isn't about your bond, it is about love and sexual fantasies and wanting to be special and wishing you had that in your real life.
**I don't think I feel this way, but maybe you are right, and I don't see it yet. I felt this way about him even when I thought my marrige was okay. For me it is that special bond is what I want to talk about. Why do I feel it for him? I never felt it for my DH or kids or most people I know ( I do feel a different bond for my DH and kids). But this bond I feel for my T is different. I do appreciate your post, I don't fully understand it, but I am happy you told me what you think. It gives me something to think about. Thanks! :)
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