Posted by gardenergirl on December 31, 2005, at 7:36:46
In reply to Re: T trigger » happyflower, posted by crazy teresa on December 30, 2005, at 22:12:02
Hi Happyflower,
I'm late to this thread, but I wanted to say good for you for following up with this! I hope you are feeling a bit better about things.Just an observation...when my T and I get to the scheduling part, it seems that the therapy is over, and we both sort of shift to "regular people" mode. So I think that might make it "easier" but not right, for him to let his anxiety and crankiness come through.
I also know that as I am walking my clients out the door or as we are scheduling the next appt., particularly if it was not a hugely intense session, or if things had wound down already, I get more relaxed with clients. I suppose I should watch that, but I go into normal GG mode, and maybe wish them a good weekend or something else I might say to a friend or acquaintance versus a client.
Anywho, it sounded like one of those moments to me. It's good for me to hear that this can hurt, too. I do some "thinking out loud" when scheduling etc., and I haven't thought about how my client might be hearing this and reacting to it.
And one last point...he does care. I think that slipping like that is just a factor of what was in his mind at the moment, and that he was less in "T mode" and more in "I've got to get going" mode. But he does care. That isn't fake or put on only during the therapy session. It's just that our focus changes throughout the day. During the session, our focus is, hopefully, solely on the client. But focus and feelings are a bit different. I think the feelings are there even if they are not in the forefront of someone's mind at the moment.
Sorry for rambling....
Take dare,
gg
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