Posted by Voce on December 19, 2005, at 21:33:37
In reply to Re: I am seeing her Monday » Voce, posted by gardenergirl on December 17, 2005, at 17:49:07
It was nice, not earth shaking. No "therapy" occured. It was the first time I had seen her since February, when she had to suddenly leave her position.
She is running the Psychology program at another college now and loves it. She shares an office separated by barriers with 6 other faculty, but we were all alone there tonight.
My relationship to her has changed; I'm not exactly a client anymore, but we had things to discuss about my family and how I'm coping with the loss of ex male T.
She actually saw him 2 Saturdays ago. She is trying to hire him as adjunct faculty for her department. Hearing his name just made my heart ache. She asked me if I still thought of him a lot, and I said, "yes, every day." I think of him every day." She seemed to understand that.
Just confirming her existence, and the existence of my former male T, makes me feel a bit more grounded. She seemed happy to see me and gave me a big hug at the end, which I never would have initiated, but glad she did. So much for the theory that I'm bothering her.
:-)
But there is bittersweetness there too, because it makes me feel closer to my former male T, yet still so far away. In miles, about 55. And a lifetime, if you want to count it another way.
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