Posted by gardenergirl on December 11, 2005, at 16:47:30
In reply to restorative justice, posted by med_empowered on December 11, 2005, at 10:32:26
> I think you're right...what you're describing ("resotrative justice") is really what I'm after. Maybe it won't prove "cathartic," but I'm thinking that if done well it could prove somehow...satisfying.
Sometimes we need to take steps to express our hurt or outrage, even if we know darn well that the other person will not be moved by our expression. For me, I once confronted my supervisor about something. My T really tried to discourage me, because he felt it would not amount to anything. I told him that I really NEEDED to do this, because it was a step towards self-validating my feelings, which I otherwise tended to doubt. So confronting meant that I was in no doubt about what I felt, and I was confident enough about it to express it, even knowing that my supervisor likely would not see it that way.
Maybe you and I will have other similar situations where we won't feel the need to confront, because we can validate our feelings without that step. I think there are other times when it's too important. I think the bottom line is what will it do for you? If you will benefit from it, go for it, but be safe. Like ally said, go in without any expectation of relief or reponse, but revel in expressing yourself.
Good luck whatever you decide. And know that we hear you here. And we support you.
gg
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