Posted by one woman cine on December 8, 2005, at 13:56:33
In reply to Called my T, feel stupid now, posted by Voce on December 8, 2005, at 0:57:50
I can relate to having a therapist who changes the rules. Things were unpredictable and it became even harder to trust anyone after that.
Are you in therapy now? A good therapist can really undo "bad" therapy & give you a sense of validation. It did for me. Although I'm still furious & it has helped me immensely (!) to hear someone say that what I'm feeling isn't too "off base" & pretty normal in fact. & her ability to look at things & take care of boundaries makes me realize what I was missing the entire time before.
Maybe, if you aren't in therapy, (I don't know, are you?) tentatively putting your toes in the "therapy waters" (so to speak) is really healthy and proactive, despite the treatment by T1. & I think shows a great deal of courage.
Even if you have terminated with T2, I think it's good to use her as resource. Don't ever feel bad about advocating for yourself, which it sounds like you are doing. Maybe she could be helpful in getting you a referral to a few therapists.
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