Posted by Tamar on December 7, 2005, at 17:57:39 [reposted on December 8, 2005, at 0:18:58 | original URL]
In reply to Re: The Green Light and my T » Tamar, posted by Gabbix2 on December 7, 2005, at 17:21:18
> > I think I know what you mean… But when I was in the depths of transference hell I longed for an opportunity to joke about my fantasies in a playful way with people who understood.
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> I think that's the important part..understanding, and sharing maybe *privately*. I d on't mean you have to deny them.I see what you’re saying. I guess it’s hard to find people to share this stuff with privately. I could probably do it through Babblemail now that I’ve managed to get to know people here. But my real life friends just don’t understand!
> I've not had a therapist, and I don't think it would really put people at risk, but I've read really painful stories here of people who have been taken advantage of by their T's, and who originally thought it was their own decision.
Yes, I’ve read some too. It’s terribly painful. It’s really not funny when therapists misbehave.
> So it's hard for me to see it as harmless, because of what it may bring out in those who've been victimized.
Ah, I think I understand. You’re concerned about the people who’ve been hurt who read this stuff. Yes, that makes a lot of sense to me. I can imagine it would be painful to people who have been sexually exploited by their therapists. Maybe it needs trigger warnings if it’s going to be discussed publicly, or particularly when we want to joke about it to relieve some of the tension.
I hope, and I really think it’s possible, that those of us who feel intense sexual desire for our therapists can understand that the reality is usually very different. I know that we’d benefit from the experience of anyone who warns us of the dangers of allowing our therapists to be intimate with us. I’m sure we can be sensitive to different experiences. Thanks for getting me to think about it.
> That is really all I was saying, because of that I personally can't see it so lightly.
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> But then, I have a problem taking lots of things lightly.. : )Hey, I take almost nothing lightly. I think a healthy dose of seriousness is a good thing in this world!
You take care.
Tamar
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