Posted by CareBear04 on November 22, 2005, at 10:38:39
hey everyone--
i just started therapy with a new T. the first session was easy-- he just asked me a bunch of questions, and i answered them. the second session was torture. we sat down, and there was this long silence. finally, i asked, "do you usually wait for the other person to start first?" and he said yes. the whole time there were these long, stilted silences, and i felt so uncomfortable and self-conscious. i want to know how other people do in their therapy sessions so i know how to do it "right." i'm all about "right" and living up to expectations, but this guy is not giving me any clue as to what he wants from me. he just leans back in his chair and, for all i know, he could be about to doze off from boredom, and i wouldn't be surprised because i've had nothing intelligent or interesting to say!
i've been in therapy before with two psychiatrists who were both psychoanalysts. once i told them and they saw for themselves that i need to be asked questions and that i don't do well with free-associating and what-not, they went easy on me. therapy was fun after that because i could hear my T's input and it was like a conversation and not a long silence with a few remarks here and there. i miss my old Ts, but they're in other parts of the country.
after only one real session, i'm so frustrated, and i think my session this afternoon is going to be my last. does anyone have any thoughts or suggestions? is that what "real" therapy has to be like? i realize what i had with my Ts before wasn't conventional, but can't it be like that more often?
thanks,
CB
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thread:581211
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