Posted by muffled on November 21, 2005, at 13:30:10
In reply to Re: Okay, I can't stand it, I have to talk about my T » muffled, posted by happyflower on November 21, 2005, at 13:00:06
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> > > Then he asks me if I looking forward to my next session. I kinda was caught offguard with this question, so I paused, and then said, yes, as always. Then he asks when my next appointment is, I say 2 weeks, he said wow, that long from now.
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> > *Whoah!!!!!!!Seriously, WHOAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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> Seriously, whoah? So this isn't all in my head, you think?*********No way, not to me. You guys were CHATTING. I don't think its a normal think to call your T and chat. Nu-uh. Why would he think 2 weeks is long? That was a weird thing for him to say.
>> Maybe you better look into some depends of something! LOL I have only talked to my T on the phone only a few times, so I don't know how long is long.
******I think anything more than about 30 seconds unless you got something urgent and specific to talk about.
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> Yes, I know we both could get hurt, you are right. This is why I am trying to hold back my feelings and deny them and deny that I think he has feelings for me. But it is getting to the point that I can't hide my attraction for him.****Hard to beleive he hasn't noticed somehow?
I think we could be friends, but yet I am sexually attracted to him too, so I don't know. In fact I think we are both mutually attracted to each other. I can tell. It is scarey and exciting at the same time.
*******definately a serious trip. The stuff of fantasies.
> I know a lot of people say it is all transference because normally you don't know anything about your T . Well I know A LOT, with the exception of physical touching, it is like we have dated since this summer. Most people would say, if they knew us, that we would be "perfect" for one another. But of course we are both married, me unhappily, I am not sure how happy is in his marraige , and of course he is my T , so there are rules about that after therapy. I am almost at the point of thinking it would be worth it to be with him. I feel I am looking at all of this pros and cons, I just can't stop my feelings for him.********Sorry I make light of your situation. It must be so conflicting and confusing for you. I think if you care about him you really need to get this out in the open and deal with this sooner rather than later. And if he seems like he needs time to deal with it alone a bit rather than having an emotion charged thrashing out, you should give that gift of time alone to him. Its so very hard and complicated. I hope you'll keep us up to date.
He sounds like a nice man.
Its all so fraught with danger.
Its all so unreal.
Its all so confusing.
Its all so exiting.
I hope you don't get hurt. You such a sweetie.
Maybe fairytales do come true?
Muffled.
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