Posted by gardenergirl on November 10, 2005, at 0:44:38
In reply to (((orchid))) » orchid, posted by Jen Star on November 10, 2005, at 0:24:43
Oh dear, what an awful situation. I'm glad you are trusting your gut with this. I wish I had an easy answer.
Can you try to think of this behavior of your father's as separate from everything else you feel for him and that he says or does? So if you are able to say something to him eventually, it's just about his behavior. It doesn't mean that you don't feel what you feel for him, or that he is bad all around, etc. If you can draw a circle around that behavior and say, "I don't like this, and it has to stop or...and set some kind of consequence"...
I hope you can find a way to feel supported and empowered in dealing with this. I'm so sorry that you do have this going on.
Take care,
gg
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