Posted by orchid on October 19, 2005, at 18:27:36
In reply to Re: Talking about transference to your husband/SO? » orchid, posted by JenStar on October 19, 2005, at 18:08:37
Thanks JS.
As of now, I am not leaning towards either telling/not telling. Ideally, I would like to tell him and get the response that you posted !! But that might also be hoping for too much and it might also put unwanted strain on my marriage.
But on the other hand, my husband has been behaving really mature in the recent days, and am wondering if telling him will only strengthen the foundation of my marriage. Especially now we have started thinking of a kid and maybe in a year we will go with that plans, I am kind of hesitant to bring a kid into the family with this big secrecy. Maybe if he knows in advance and makes peace with it, it might help in a peaceful marriage after the kid. What if he comes to know of it later and it rocks the marriage? I don't want my kid to suffer later.
He is already actually aware of my attraction towards my T (I once said somethings about my T in my dream), and he was pretty upset at that time (It was quite a while back though). But I explained things a little bit to him, and he became somewhat ok after that. And he is aware of the intense attachment that develops towards a T in a therapy relationship, though he probably doesn't understand transference and projecting etc.
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