Posted by pegasus on September 29, 2005, at 11:22:11
In reply to Re: Great Minds » daisym, posted by Shortelise on September 29, 2005, at 0:47:33
Sorry SE, for thanking daisy for that and not you. You're right, you both said really similar things.
I think I'm a big source of support for my friends, and that I don't ask for it for myself enough. Which makes for a really unbalanced relationship. It sometimes gets to the point where they don't call me unless they have a problem (but no worries - there are always plenty of problems to keep us close!). I started avoiding one friend a few years ago who was just draining me with all of her problems, and blowing me off when she was doing ok. We're close again now, but I keep it in mind when I schedule things with her.
I don't know how to make it more balanced. I think I don't believe anyone would want to be my friend if I leaned on them. I buy their friendship with my support.
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