Posted by Dinah on September 9, 2005, at 20:03:43
In reply to Hugs from T?, posted by luvdove on September 7, 2005, at 6:11:01
I often bring these things up by saying that I read an interesting discussion about, say, hugging and therapists, and that it made me wonder what his thoughts on the subject might be. Of course, I also often do that about things I have no desire to do. He's perceptive enough to understand that I could be indirectly talking about myself and my own wishes or actions, and he answers with that in mind. Sometimes it's sort of funny, because it really isn't about me. But other times, it gives me courage because I know what his policies are then.
I started asking for handshakes after eight(?) or so years of therapy. He gave them without comment, and eventually I told him what my reasons were. He had already known. :) After ten years, I asked for a hug, and he said that after ten years, asking for a hug was reason enough to give it.
That being said, I found it far less satisfying than being emotionally held.
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