Posted by rabidreader on August 26, 2005, at 14:59:22
In reply to Re: (((((FlyingKangaroo))))) » All Done, posted by FlyingKangaroo on August 24, 2005, at 21:08:27
Oh, honey, you made me smile, and that's hard to do these days. When I was in love with my T (still am in love, but he's gone), I lost sight of my original intent in therapy also--which was recovery, my own goals, my own future. Right now, even though he left the state last week, I still think more about him than about my own self. It is hard to get back on track while in the grip of tranference, or indeed any romantic love emotion. The phone book whacking your head is the only thing you can see and feel.
I think what your T says, though, is right. Talk some more about it. And I mean get graphic if you have to--talk about the sexual fantasies, the daddy fantasies, whatever--I wish I had done that with my T months ago, instead of keeping all the images and thoughts and feelings inside out of fear, shame, and pride. With my new T (a female colleague of his), I am telling it like it is. It is VERY hard and very uncomfortable but it is working on the ingrown toenail, so to speak, and leaving the phone book behind.
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