Posted by alexandra_k on August 20, 2005, at 7:58:08
In reply to Re: Attachment » alexandra_k, posted by cricket on August 20, 2005, at 7:20:49
> I need to find one of those theorists that believe early attachment is not so crucial. Otherwise I've failed. Failed the magical age test, failed every test that this T set up to determine if I'm worth his time.
:-(
What I noticed...
(Sorry for probably triggering once again)
Is that despite what their 'mothers' did
Those little monkeys still held on
Attachment is very resistent to all kinds of sh*t
I don't know that they ever really managed to prevent it
Which isn't to say that those monkeys didn't have severe problems later in life
Despite their not being able to induce 'significant psychopathology' that was visible at the time.I don't know what Bowlby found...
I don't think its the be all and end all.
The CBT therapists I have seen weren't interested in it at all.
They figured that the problem is in the present
So the solution lies in the present too
There isn't any point in getting too caught up in what has happened in the past
Can't change the past.
No point purposely hauling it into the present.
I guess there is enough that manages to get there all by itself...
I don't know.But its not too late.
You talk to us.
You reach out for people contact.
You care about what people think of you.
You haven't managed to give up on people altogether.
So, I reckon there is a lot of hope
And IMO that 'critical age' b*llshit is pulling numbers out of the sky
Fact is we don't know
And people are massively resilient.> When's your appointment? It seems like you've certainly tried to deal with enough issues on Babble this week to cull something for her.
Monday. Yeah, I'll have to think of / find something.
Thanks.
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