Posted by Joslynn on August 19, 2005, at 11:57:01
In reply to Re: Thanks all.. and some info on working it out., posted by rabidreader on August 18, 2005, at 14:46:23
Good job Orchid!
I like all of your advice, especially about being honest with the other T.
I had a transference thing, and it got resolved, but only after a big emotional shattering of the whole fantasy in a rather unpleasant way to say the least. Another thing that helped (I know that this wasn't feasible in Orchid's case) is to be honest with the other person in the transference about it and how they may have inadvertently contributed to it. Keeping it secret makes it grow. For me, I also had to leave the therapeutic/talk therapy part of the old situation as well. I don't want to be too detailed.
The best part is, after it all blew up and I had to put myself back together, there was suddenly this clarity in me, an openess to new, real relationships. And suddenly, the opportunity for a real relationship appeared, out of the blue.
It is strange how life and God works.
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