Posted by rabidreader on August 15, 2005, at 14:47:14
In reply to Re: Terrible termination *trigger*, posted by Declan on August 13, 2005, at 22:03:58
He told me a "clean break" was best because I have this tendency to either obsess about someone when they leave me, or totally hate them (black and white thinking). He threw it in my face that I had told him this, and used it as an excuse to defend his position. When I asked him point blank if his decision had anything to do with the fact that I had feelings for him, he said no. My intuition tells me this is a bald-faced lie.
If I had been the therapist in this situation, I would have called an extra session before the last session to discuss my new decision about not writing. It still would have hurt like hell, but we would have had an hour to discuss it, and I would have had a week to process it and then had (hopefully) a good ending session. Or I could have walked out and never seen him again. But at least I would have had the power. To spring things on me at the very last, ending minute was totally wrong.
He was totally defensive the whole time and threw things in my face that I would never expect a therapist to do. It was just a bunch of excuses. It is not uncommon, from my experience, to let a client write to them.
Thank you for responding to my post, everyone. It is really helping to have support. Even though I am rightfully angry, I am still devastated and in pain.
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