Posted by FlyingKangaroo on August 14, 2005, at 18:50:24
In reply to Re: Transference making me nuts!, posted by sleepygirl on August 14, 2005, at 14:03:02
Unfortunately, when we begin relationships, especially intimate therapeutic relationships, we just are who we are, for better or for worse. It is however often amplified in therapy. Then it becomes an opportunity to look very closely at our reactions in the here and now and consider the whys. We all learn what we live. We come to expect certain things based on our past experiences which we bring with us, and/or we value so much the safety and attention of therapy because we lacked it before. It becomes an opportunity to look at past hurts, understand our reactions, and hopefully grow, internalize some of the comfort and get more of what we want out of life and love.
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> Anyway, this may be a bit too general or doesn't fit well for you, but BELIEVE ME-I've lived through it (still living through it, but a lot less focused on it) and I'm alive to tell the tale. It can really suck to go through it in "real time" as I like to say, we can talk a lot about how we feel, but sometimes feeling it can be so uncomfortable.
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> I think you've got some perspective on it, that helps I think. So, I'd risk it and voice just what you've said-the concerns you've voiced here, talk about other stuff too, but acknowledge it for yourself. If your T is used to handling it then it will be as they say "grist for the mill". Hang in there roo, and hang out here too. :-)
> Best wishes,
> sleepygirl (NYer)Thanks sleepygirl.
Knowing that I'm not alone helps a lot also from what I've read on these boards it seems to be O.K.to feel like this. I'm sure that in my case it comes from growing up fatherless. Just wish i had an idea that this sort of thing can happen in therapy before going in. I will definately be hanging out around here. :)
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