Posted by Dinah on July 28, 2005, at 11:26:49
In reply to Re: Wanting a mommy (long) trigger » Dinah, posted by daisym on July 28, 2005, at 11:08:05
> Don't you want to believe that you can have the freedom of choosing what you will and won't do, to be yourself completely and still get nurtured from a partner in a grown-up way?
But if I have the freedom of choosing, and being myself completely, then I've done just that. (Beam)
No, I don't want to be nurtured in a grown-up way. Ick.
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> I'm struggling with this, I'm not sure I believe it either. It might go back to what I wrote a month ago, about my little girl feelings being more acceptable to my therapist than my adult ones. I believe children should be taken care of, nurtured, loved and kept safe.
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> Or maybe, it is about being loveable at all. Maybe I think noone can/will take care of me because I'm not worth loving. *I* don't matter, I never really did. The things I can do and did do matter. Not me. And that is a very, very painful concept when you include your mother in this group. And your husband.Depends on the mother and the husband. You are worth loving, Daisy. We love you. Your mother you had no choice about. I sometimes want to kick myself about my husband, but... He has many fine and useful qualities. He takes good care of us. I'm lucky to have him.
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