Posted by Jadah on July 27, 2005, at 20:11:23
In reply to Re: thanx pinkeye! » Jadah, posted by pinkeye on July 22, 2005, at 20:29:58
I think I remember reading about your situation with your ex T. I am sooo sorry to hear that. Believe me, I know how scary and hurtful it is to lose someone you care about so much, especially when it was not you to make the decision to walk away. As you know that is my fear also. It feels horrible to not have any control over the relationship. It hurts to feel abandoned especially if you have issues with that in your past. If youre like me you think about him constantly and you ache to not be able to be a part of them. The thought of ending my relationship with my T... just the thought kills me. I think I would feel as if someone died. The grieving process is the same... anger, denial, bargaining, depression, and hopefully eventually along will come acceptance. That is the hardest and most painful part. Grieving takes a long time. Maybe you could write him a letter telling how you feel about what happened. Write the letter for YOU though, to get your feelings out. When your done, put it in an envelope and stick it in a drawer for a day or so. When you are not as upset, read it again then decide if you want to send it. Its not about how or if he responds. Its about you getting your feelings out and taking back some control. I so sympathize with you. I know my day is coming. Another thing, I had a therapist many years ago that i loved. Things ended ubruptly and I was devistated. I never thought I would find someone like him, BUT i did. My T now gave me more than anyone else ever did. Hopefully the next T you find will give you everything your x did and MORE. Take care of yourself- Ill talk to you soon! Thanks for the support!
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