Posted by gardenergirl on July 23, 2005, at 14:51:14
In reply to Help! (trigger), posted by messadivoce on July 23, 2005, at 14:12:37
Oh sweetie. Planning a wedding can be fraught with landmines as you said. It's not just about you, unfortunately, and that can lead to problems just like you describe. I'm so sorry that has to be an issue for you in planning your day.
Sometimes it's good to try to do a cost/benefit analysis about the situation. What can you tolerate in the spirit of avoiding worse blow-ups? And where do you firmly draw the line, such as you describe with this family.
I'm so sorry that this issue had to come to light during a time that is supposed to be special and happy. I'm so glad your T was understanding and validating. Hang on to that reaction. It's true and authentic and pure.
((((messadivoce)))))
gg
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