Posted by Jazzed on June 27, 2005, at 22:09:55
In reply to Re: GG, how exactly did you ask for twice a week? » Jazzed, posted by gardenergirl on June 27, 2005, at 20:02:04
> Oh dear. I'm sorry his comment affected you so intensely. Did he realize?thanks GG, you made me feel much better. I didn't tell him how it affected me because I just completely shut down when I heard this, I didn't even hear what he said afterward. I couldn't think of anything other than, "OMGosh, how am I supposed to get all of this out, and get over it so quickly!? I can't do it!" I think I was in panic mode.
>If it helps, 12 is the average number of CBT sessions, but most of the time that is for one specific problem. Those who have multiple or more complex issues usually take much longer. Not all T's carry clients long term, though.
Okay, well I will have to ask him about whether he will stick with me for as long as it takes. I can't get into all of this stuff, and then have him terminate me. It would be just one more thing to work through. I don't want to be a chapter in the book on bad terminations!
>I hope you feel comfortable talking about your reaction and asking for clarification. If your T does work with longer term clients, then I suspect that even if you go to the one year point, you would not have to terminate if you are still making progress.
I do feel comfortable bringing it up, wish I could've brought it up today. I just shut off.
I think I can trust him, I think I can like him. He seems like a really decent guy.>
> It's hard to estimate treatment duration early in treatment. That may be why your T gave that number, as research supports it---again for single issues or diagnoses, usually. Often a client has not disclosed all the issues at first, and therapy can keep going on as long as there is still stuff.I have disclosed nothing big, and there is a lot of big stuff. He only knows I'm anxious, have social inhibitions, and stuff like that.
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> Although in my case, I went in telling my T that I would likely be long term. LOL. I just knew I had decades of stuff I hadn't dealt with. And we have gone over two years now and still going strong, at least until I graduate. (sigh)OMGosh, did you disclose stuff easily, and early on? Do you cry? Do you feel like an idiot when you cry? Then is it hard for you to walk out of the office after crying?
I wish I had it in me to get on with the messier stuff. I'm afraid of several things....crying, I'll feel like an idiot with him and walking out. Just getting into the messy stuff, thinking of disclosing it to him has made me think of it a lot, and I don't normally do that, and it's just scary that it's all still there so visibly. And vulnerability. I just am not comfortable with feeling that.
So, when you graduate, can you still see your T if you pay? That would just be too hard to know that when you graduate you're done with therapy.
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> Take extra care of yourself for a few days. CBT is a good therapy modality for a number of issues, and also for more complex cases. You just work through stuff bit by bit.
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> I hope your T is more reassuring next time you meet. Please do talk about this.Thanks GG, you're a saint! I'm glad you're here, you made me feel so much better. If it doesn't look reassuring with him, I hope I can find someone more like you to work with.
Jazzy
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