Posted by Tamar on June 23, 2005, at 18:04:04
In reply to Closing with my current T as well. 5 more sessions, posted by pinkeye on June 23, 2005, at 13:18:07
> I am moving to India in Mid August. My husband has got a job, and I have started looking for one.
Gosh. So it’s definite then. That decision can’t have been easy.
> My T is on vacation for 2 weeks. So we calculated that we have only 5 sessions totally with her.
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> And she said that she wants to spend the rest of the time with her closing down, and not get into further therapy. She said she understands that closure is what is important to me now, and she wants to give me adequate time to close down comfortably with her to sort of rewrite what happened with my ex T.That sounds like a good thing. I’m glad she’s going to take termination very seriously.
> She said she would not be giving me her email address - that she wants me to really close with her and asking me to write to her after closing will put me in the same dilemma and repeat what happened with my ex T. And that she never has given her email to anyone so far in the last 20 years.
Maybe it’s for the best. And this therapy relationship has been much shorter and less intense than the relationship with your ex-T.
> I don't know what I will do in India.. of who I will find.. I really like my current T - I am not extremely attached to her, but she has been very good in giving me insights. I wonder what I will do to find someone like that in India.. I don't want to go again to goal oriented short term therapy that is the usual indian style.. I want to really get someone who will help heal my emotions. And my current T thinks I need continued support from a psychologist.
I agree with your current T. I get the impression you would really benefit from some long term therapy with someone who understand emotions.
> This is like a termination strikes before I heal fully from a prior termination..
Ouch. Yes, I can imagine that you might not feel ready yet for another termination. I hope it goes as well as possible in the curcumstances.
Tamar
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