Posted by pinkeye on June 23, 2005, at 13:40:08
In reply to Afraid of being happy? (longish), posted by spalding on June 23, 2005, at 10:51:18
I also have got confused with the same issue. When I feel happy, I feel terrified. But thankfully yesterday I read a book - Courage to Heal which actually validated the feelings. It seems lot of people have this problem when they have gone through lot of abuse in childhood.. When we are happy, and we immediately have to face an abusive situation and terrifying things just at the same time, our mind unconsciously equates happinesss with pain and suffering. So we start associating the two. I remember many days in childhood, when I would start to feel happy, and then immediately there would be a huge fight between my parents - and this repeated several several several days.. And no wonder I associate happiness with pain and suffering. Soething like that could have happened to you.
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