Posted by Dinah on June 23, 2005, at 7:18:46
In reply to Tragedy in T's family, posted by Aphrodite on June 23, 2005, at 6:00:51
I went through this with my therapist's mother. I was, of course, very worried about him.
He took care of himself, though. He took some rare personal time, and when he came back he insisted that he was just fine. He wasn't of course, and was off his stride for several months.
But I think Tamar was right. Both from that experience and from my personal experience. On the other hand, from both experiences I also learned that someone who is experiencing loss is also not at their best.
So I'd say the most charitable thing to do is to make clear that if he needs time off, you understand. But if he'd prefer to work, you'll respect that. And silently resolve to let lapses slip for a few months. Because it's not unusual for loss and grief to manifest itself more subtly.
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