Posted by Jazzed on June 16, 2005, at 22:53:25
Some of you might remember that I went to a new T a week or so ago, don't even remember how long ago. Anyway, he pissed me off so much that I couldn't stop thinking about a lot of the things he said, and realized he was right about most of what he said. Some of the being pissed off was because of the way he said it, and some of it was because I didn't like him as a person - his manner. Anyway, I told my p-doc that it wasn't a good fit, and that I wasn't going back to him. But today I thought maybe I should go back, maybe he does have something to teach me, maybe I should give him a 2nd chance but I thought I should tell him how much he pissed me off, and see how he responds to that.He told me how to go about disciplining our kids, and it seemed pretty "harda**" to me. I don't want to be that way with our kids, but he's right, the kids don't listen to me until I yell, and yelling stresses me out. I also feel bad if I don't let them do what they want to do because they haven't done their chores. The T's theory was, you didn't do what you were told, so don't ask me for anything. And then, of course, reward the good behavior. He also said it was irrational to say I wasn't tired. I took offense at that because I didn't want to admit I was tired, and also didn't appreciate being called irrational. The session went like that, and I couldn't wait to get out of there, but now I'm thinking I need to go back. Now what?!
My initial opinion of this guy was that he was abrasive, rude - his phone buzzed twice and he checked it both times, and he and his office were a total MESS! I just don't know why I'm considering going back!?! Any ideas? Should I go back and give it a 2nd try? Should I find someone else and forget it? I'll feel really stupid explaining this to my p-doc after I JUST told him I wouldn't go back.
Jazzy
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thread:514085
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