Posted by Tamar on May 29, 2005, at 4:50:54
In reply to How Do I Tell My T, posted by Soxy on May 29, 2005, at 3:26:19
Oh, that’s hard. I’m not sure it’s ideal for your T to pressure you to talk about something you find so difficult, but perhaps she means to be encouraging and supportive?
I also used to be very afraid that my therapist would find me disgusting when I told him certain things. He never did, though. Every time I decided to trust him with something embarrassing he handled it sensitively. It built a lot of trust between us, and helped me think of myself with less disgust.
I imagine that if your therapist wants you to discuss this topic with her, she is probably prepared to hear absolutely anything. I don’t think you can shock or disgust her. And it’s not particularly unusual to have limited experience of relationships.
I especially think she shouldn’t be shocked or disgusted by your sexual orientation. I hope she would see her role as being (in part) to help you to experience being gay as one of life’s joys. Exploring how your sexuality works should be exciting and beautiful and fun, whatever your orientation.
I think writing it all down is a very good idea. It’s what I had to do when I was preparing to talk about difficult topics. In the end I was able to say it out loud, but I probably could have given it to my therapist to read. He was very patient with me, and I’m sure yours will be too.
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