Posted by Jazzed on May 26, 2005, at 8:56:32
In reply to criticalness= emotional abuse? :(, posted by happyflower on May 26, 2005, at 8:13:05
Hey Flower! Just because you can be critical doesn't mean that all that comes out of your mouth is critical. I feel the same way, that I tend to be criical, but usually it's in particular situations, not all the time. Do you think that's the case with you? I find that I'm more sarcastic when I'm not sure of myself, or I don't know what to say. Those times I should just keep my mouth shut, or be kinder to myself by saying something nice, even if it's stupid. I don't want to be like my mom or my dad. My dad was verbally and emotionally abusive, and my mom was too, but not to the same degree. I do find that I do some of the things they do, some things are worse. I get so impatient with my kids. Like today, they're overactive, and it's driving me bananas, but as long as I can maintain a passable decorum with them and don't hurt them, that's acceptable to me. It's the best I can do under the circumstances.
I'd say, given the knowledge that you have, now you can work on doing better. That's really all we can ask of ourselves. I'm sure your T would see this as a great area to work on. Good luck!
Jazz
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