Posted by JenStar on May 14, 2005, at 20:24:09
In reply to Embarrassing Topic, posted by LittleGirlLost on May 13, 2005, at 12:16:38
I think this problem is actually pretty common! And I do understand. Letting someone hear your f**ts and sh**ts is actually kind of intimate, in a gross way. I think we're a bit vulnerable when we're "going" so psychologically we don't want to be exposed to others. And then there's the whole Western tradition of finding ANY bodily function, including sex, "icky", and setting up society accordingly!
I used to have the same problem. I could not go if there was any other person in the bathroom. I'd sit in the stall like poet and wait, even 10 minutes, until they left. Sometimes I'd cringe in embarrassment and almost cry, certain that they thought I was weird, knew what I was doing, etc.
But now I don't care. I f*8rt with wild abandon! I wish I could offer advice on how I got over it, but I don't even know. I guess I just decided to force myself to go, because other people did it, and I was sick of stopping at 3 restrooms and waiting 10 minutes. The first few times it was agonizing, but it got better. Right now I think I'd still be uncomfortable if my boss was in the next stall, or an "important" person I was trying to impress. I'm with you - it doens't matter as much with strangers and 100 stalls!
I think you should talk to your T about it. Hopefully they can help. I know there are lots of other people who struggle with this, so hopefully he could offer advice.
good luck!
JenStar
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