Posted by Susan47 on May 14, 2005, at 12:51:29
In reply to Re: I annoy my T » namaste, posted by alexandra_k on May 12, 2005, at 22:41:19
I don't think it's useful for a therapist to be angry even for one session, or annoyed, it should be something s/he observes in themself, then processes it, maybe for later, and continues on with you. If a therapist's upset or annoyed by a client for even a whole session and doesn't have it resolved by the next time, that person should be seeking his or her own counsellor for help. That's a huge problem with therapists who don't self-check and know how to help themselves. I was incredibly angry with my ex-therapist for saying he never sought out therapy. Furious, in fact, I thought, "You hypocrite. How can you do that to your "patients"?" (he liked to call us that). I knew he was in deeper than he could handle after a particularly sweaty handshake, one he was reluctant to give. But he didn't help himself when he needed it, and he let both of us down. I know therapists are only human, don't anyone tell me that, but they need to recognize that, not us: we shouldn't have to look out for ourselves at the same time that we're being extremely vulnerable, seeking help from someone who claims to be able to help us.
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