Posted by 10derHeart on May 13, 2005, at 0:20:52
In reply to clarification » 10derHeart, posted by pinkeye on May 11, 2005, at 22:38:07
Hmm, I guess I follow that distinction, although my brain's a little foggy lately (annoying hormonal flucuations, I suspect)
I think it's great you felt your ex-T. was warm and affectionate towards you. You've also described him as philisophical, smart and logical, too I think (I know I'm paraphrasing a bit..) so I'm picturing a man fairly well-balanced between the cognitive and the emotional -at least while he was doing therapy with you.
Again for me, the male T's were still better. By different means, each of them could grasp my emotional patterns, see them when I couldn't at all. Maybe it boils down to what Daisy (and others) said anyway - it's far more about that person and what they bring into the room than it is about their gender. A combination of what they got out of their training, what they are willing to take and learn from each client, and their natural tendencies toward empathy and so forth.
Since I've never formed a bond with any female T., I can't say what that would feel like. But I certainly can envison it being possible.
I think I'm just not interested right now. I delibrately chose my current male T. and even passed on checking out some highly recommended women in the area. Even though on one level I was scared to death after becoming so attached and grieving so deeply about the loss of ex.-T when he moved away. I risked it anyway, for several reasons, I think. I just know with my issues and life experiences, it is extremely important that I be in a safe, close, healthy relationship with a male T.
I just know that's really, really important.
I guess I just thank God quite a few of us have found a T. ( or two, in my case) male or female - that are a good fit for us, really care about what they're doing, and that we know are truly helping us in our struggles. Life has been far better with a caring therapist in my corner than it ever was without one.
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