Posted by Pfinstegg on May 1, 2005, at 1:48:03
In reply to I wish things weren't so hard, posted by daisym on April 30, 2005, at 23:43:20
I don't think i've ever seen a post from you saying that you feel like avoiding your therapist. There have been so many inspiring posts where it seemed like you and he were a model for a good therapeutic alliance.Those were ones, I'm thinking, where you allowed, and he accepted, a lot of dependance and trust, and where you confided so many things you had never done before with anyone. I do think, though, that along with the parts that are so needy and hurting, there are bound to be other parts which are used to being alone and distrustful. i know i have both sides.
i'd say- be sure to keep all of your appointments this week, and let the avoidant part have her full say. I don't know quite what to say about the telephone sessions, as my analyst does not do them as part of therapy, so i don't know what they are like. I find it a lot to go every day, and am kind of glad not to have to check in by phone in addition. .
I guess the main thing your post makes me think: the avoidant part is just one of many- you also have very loving, trustful parts. The avoidant, distrustful part probably needs comforting more than anything else. Can you do that for her? i'm always forgetting to do that, and my analyst is always reminding me that he and i both need to do it. Just my thought- not sure if it applies well.
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