Posted by Dinah on April 30, 2005, at 12:10:55
In reply to Re: Worthless Crazy Jerk, posted by scorch1 on April 30, 2005, at 11:47:51
I'm one of those intensely annoying people who feel that there is always the possibility of change.
Do you know that at the very end of my Dad's life, he started telling me he loved me for the very first time (in words)? At first it was just a "me too" when I told him I loved him, but later he'd answer "I love you too". That doesn't sound like a huge change, does it? But it meant a lot to me.
You work 80 hour weeks at age 63 with diabetes? I am so impressed. I can barely manage thirty at twenty years younger. Distraction isn't a bad coping skill. But maybe you could find a distraction that was a bit more enjoyable? I'm not one to ask, because I tend to distract myself with "enthusiasms" that end up costing a lot and that I never finish.
It sounds as if you've been indirectly trying to die for many years. Most of the people I know who try to do that have people that deep down they care about an awful lot. Your wife? Your stepdaughters? Your therapist? Losing someone that way would still be very painful, you know.
I'm afraid that if I said much more that I'd like to say, I'd get in trouble for posting faith related topics on a non-faith board. I think that's a no-no with Dr. Bob. :)
So which of us challenging clients did you identify with, and why?
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