Posted by pinkeye on April 22, 2005, at 14:17:29
In reply to Re: Cricket and Susan47 » sunny10, posted by Susan47 on April 22, 2005, at 11:12:24
Susan,
I think your ex T was really really incapable. Or he was capable for other people, but definitely not for you. You probably played out your psyche.. and as Dinah once said, therapists should know that patients behave in their worst because that is the deepest part of themselves .. and if they cannot show it in full to their therapist, they cannot ever change and learn to be good in the deepest parts. I think your therapist should have understood that what you were doing is more about you than it is about him, and somehow handled that more gently instead of getting afraid and shutting you off.I think your T was confused and scared and didn't have any capacity to handle what you were showing him.
So the only thing you can do is now move on. This T is never going to give you what you need - the validation you need and the support you need has to come from a different place - be it either a new T or a new man, or plenty of men, or from your kids or from some other means. You will never get this validation and the approval that you need from this T. Ever. So just move on.
I actually agree with Tamar's advice. Try to get to date new people. That will help. Maybe somebody good will come along who will help you heal.
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