Posted by fallsfall on March 13, 2005, at 14:12:25
In reply to When therapy is harmful (long), posted by Aphrodite on March 13, 2005, at 10:30:02
(((Aphrodite)))
What a tough situation.
I'm with Gardenergirl - do you really have to go? If it isn't a sibling, parent, or child I would consider not going.
If you do go, please try to take care of yourself while you are there - stay in a motel so you have your own space? Don't go to all of the gatherings? Go to the local library to check in with us at Babble?
Can you think of not going, or limiting your participation, as being an affirmation of *your* importance as a person and family member, rather than as a denial of your loved one's significance?
I know that Daisy went to visit her dad when her step-mother was sick last year. I believe the visit was very hard on her, and the aftereffects lasted for quite a while. Please be sure to consider *your* needs as well as those of your family.
It is hard enough when family members die... I wish you peace with whatever decision you make.
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