Remember I said my therapist would never

Posted by Dinah on March 12, 2005, at 8:41:11

Ever Ever Ever under any circumstances call me unasked except for scheduling difficulties?
And that he would NEVER EVER EVER under any circumstances call to check on me after a bad session?
Well, I was wrong.
I had a groundbreaking call yesterday after 4pm about my 8am session. He wanted to check that I was ok because I was upset when I left. And to say that perhaps he should remember that he's tired when he gets back from a travelling job and be more careful about what he says. And to tell me that he never wants me to feel anything but safe in his office.
I *was* upset when I left the session, so upset that I kept nodding off at work, and was grossly unproductive all morning, but I had gotten past it by 4 and was fully in rational work mode. Until he called of course. :)
We had had a rather heated exchange about my idea about being challenged and held at the same time. I saw it as my offering a potential solution to a problem he had identified. He took it as an attempt on my part to control him. (He also said that he perhaps didn't have the skills he needed to do that. And that it was his experience that that idea was antithetical to the whole concept of challenge because challenge involved pushing someone away a bit to stand on their own.) Then we argued over who was withdrawing from the conversation. (It was him. When he leans back and folds his arms metaphorically, he's withdrawn.) And he said some rude things to me that I have fortunately (for both of us) forgotten. I'm good at forgetting.
I left upset, but nowhere near as upset as I've been in other situations. I was crying, but not sobbing. Why he chose this situation to break a longstanding policy of never calling, I'm not sure.
Better yet, he tried to reach me at home first, so I have part of it on the answering machine tape, which I kept! (Of course, my husband heard it first and wanted to know what was upsetting. And he thinks it was weird of me to keep the tape.)

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Remember I said my therapist would never Dinah 3/12/05
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WOW...good for you that's huge! (((((Dinah))))) (nm) Speaker 3/13/05
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Re: Remember I said my therapist would never Joslynn 3/14/05
:-) Dinah 3/14/05

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