Posted by shrinking violet on March 8, 2005, at 18:19:42
In reply to Animated furniture, posted by littleone on February 27, 2005, at 21:21:13
Forgive my tardiness to answering this thread, and I admit I haven't read all of the replies as of yet, but I wanted to respond to this because your T's reaction is so interesting to me. Obviously you have a very good repoire with him, and he seems very professional and as if he has a good sense of humor....My T, if I said that to her, she would become extremely defensive and hurt, and take it very personally, or at least seem to; I've said similar things, but very mild, more along the lines of questioning the concept of therapy and how I'm not liking it much, and she's reacted in a similar way. And her reactions have pretty much hindered me from telling her anything, especially if I think it will "hurt" her, or get her angry.
You're lucky your therapy is about you. :-)
> In my latest write up to my T, I mention that I'm not connected to him at all anymore. That he's just an animated piece of furniture in the room.
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> He has said before that people can say anything to him and he doesn't mind. Even if they call him a @#%&$#*#$ (insert any profanity here), then he knows that it says more about them than him.
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> Still, does "an animated piece of furniture" sound too harsh? I kind of think it sounds more cruel than any normal sort of insult.
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> PS, re that thread about asking your T's about what happens when they kick the bucket, it was mentioned that it sounds too tacky to ask for a referral now *just in case*. But I have been really itching to do just that. Part of me suspects that I'm trying to punish him, but another part thinks, "yeah, but it's practical - don't want to be left up the creek if it ever eventuates".
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