Posted by alexandra_k on March 6, 2005, at 18:06:15
In reply to Any tips on overcoming freezing up?, posted by thewrite1 on March 6, 2005, at 12:05:16
Could you write her something?
I would say: take her phone number.
As an emergency plan.
If you ever do get the urge to do something...
Or if some unexpected crisis happens and you are freaking out then it could come in handy.
I know what you mean (at least I think I do) about boundaries.
I would never have dreamed of calling a t outside our scheduled time unless it was to cancel or something. But when I did DBT phonecalls were supposed to be a part of that. I told my t I would never ring her and so she rang me weekly. Very hard to start with. I realised that I was afraid that if I called her once then I would lose all self-control and start harrassing her. But it turns out I am so terrified of that happening that I have gone to the other extreme.I would take her number and make her PROMISE that if you call her too much then she has to tell you BEFORE she gets too upset about it. Even if you are determined never to use it - it could be useful in an emergency at the very least.
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