Posted by littleone on February 2, 2005, at 20:22:53
In reply to I think I need to find a new T, posted by partlycloudy on February 2, 2005, at 20:04:21
A T needs to be reliable. *Needs* to be. This is really not negotiable. I think you should certainly be understanding of the occasional slip up in appointment times, but this really does seem to have happened a lot in such a short space of time.
I guess it's possible that she's got a personal issue distracting her at the moment and hence the mistakes. You could ask her about it and try to get a feel for if it's the norm or not. But ack, I'd rather just leave than try to ask. But then, I guess that's why I need therapy ;)
You said you'd seen her for 5 weeks now. How often are you seeing her? If it's weekly, I would know by now if we clicked together or not. But then, I'm not sure how well you are at reading people like that.
I guess if I felt that connection, then I'd try to address the timing issues and build a stronger relationship. But if you don't feel a connection yet, well it would be easier to leave sooner rather than later.
I guess you could also start interviewing other T's on the side while you're still seeing her. By doing that, either you'll find a better T or you'll start to click with her. But then I'd feel a bit icky cheating on her. But that's just me.
Did you interview other T's while you were looking for your current T? Were there any promising runner ups?
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