Posted by Miss Honeychurch on January 22, 2005, at 15:46:46
In reply to Re: Bad session - ICK » Miss Honeychurch, posted by just plain jane on January 22, 2005, at 1:32:59
jpj,
I suppose by "invested" I feel that I allow myself to feel lousy for the rest of the day if our 50 minutes was not truly satisfying. However, I doubt he goes home feeling lousy if he feels we had a less than satisfying session. I am very much invested in this relationship for the sake of my mental health. He is invested in the relationship because it is his job, and, I assume, he likes to help others. But I don't think we are both invested in the same way.
And by "lopsided" I am sometimes frustrated by the nature of the therapeutic relationship. He has a couple dozen people he sees every week. He has MANY clients. He is my ONLY therapist. So I believe I spend a lot more time thinking about him and what we do in therapy than he does thinking about me. This seems childish to me, the way I sometimes react.
I believe our relationship is strong and healthy. However, just by the nature of what he does, I think it is inevitable that it is lopsided.
But your statement really made me think and I thank you!
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