Posted by Shortelise on January 16, 2005, at 0:10:15
In reply to Coping with 'Abandonment', posted by alexandra_k on January 15, 2005, at 19:42:30
How about "removal of support"?
Kind of like my breasts when I don't wear a bra -they flop out of control. Whoa!
Or nothing to hold on to in the bus.
Or no seatbelts.
Or how about those fair rides but without the restraints?
Yes, indeedy, I am kind of off the rails at this very moment, but more on a flight of fancy than anything pathological.
My point is, and thank goodness I have one, that our T can be a pivot, a kind of point to which we can tether ourselves. If we're lucky, that is. If I can trust this one person to be there, to be consistent, so much so that I can hold on and know he won't fall and let me fall, well! I heave a great sigh of relief, some part of me does, some part of me feels the need for that.
I need that support. I can look in that mirror and see the same image, shake that tree and the same fruit falls, catch hold of him and there is the same solidity.
ShortE
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