Posted by 10derheart on December 19, 2004, at 23:29:54
In reply to 96 meals and counting..., posted by lifeworthliving on December 19, 2004, at 22:05:23
I agree with lonelygal. I wouldn't fight the urge to email if it will relieve some really stressful emotions. You two sound securely attached and that is a good thing. I'll bet she'll even be relieved in her own way to hear from you.
And yes, your conflicting, "push-pull" feelings, thoughts of messing with her on purpose, etc., sound normal to me. I've had them at times and to different degrees. I have some now over my ex-T. I am still in touch with. With me, I know I am testing and testing to see if he's genuine, if he really will react in my best interest, over and over again. It's so frustrating to feel the need to keep doing that, I know. The best thing I know to do is to try to talk about those thoughts and feelings with her. Easier said than done, I know.
The relationship with a T. is so very complicated and hard to negotiate. Thank goodness for this group of folks here, who do understand. Sounds like you are really doing great dealing with her trip, though, and that's wonderful :)
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