Posted by Dinah on December 17, 2004, at 14:38:54
In reply to Re: idiotic, childish behaviour, posted by Daisym on December 17, 2004, at 10:42:32
> I've had this conversation a number of times with my therapist, about being afraid that I'm not going to let myself get better because I'm so attached to him.
Mine solved that by telling me I can come see him as often as I want for as long as I want even if I got all better. Which may sound awful to nontherapygoers, but it does take care of the not getting better problem, so I think it was a positive decision on his part.
> He just reassures me that he is going to be there, even when I'm 80 and he is 90, if I still need him.
LOL. Mine laughs about creaking up to the office in his walker, and being totally senile, and me not noticing the difference. :))
> He reminds me that people need each other, we should be working towards interdependence, not striving to be alone with our independence.
Bravo!!! That's my motto. Unfortunately *I* don't believe it one second. I am a rock, I am an island. Needing anyone else is unsafe. Silly me. Man wasn't made for independence. Man was made for interdependence.
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> ...it's hard though, huh?You're right there. I spent the entire session today asking my therapist what would happen if he died - over and over and over again.
Something good came out of it though. He decided that having a therapist friend of his call his clients was probably a good idea and he's going to speak to his wife about it. He had never considered the problem before. (Eye roll. Some people just never plan.) I told him to try not to die before me though, and he agreed to try.
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