Posted by daisym on December 5, 2004, at 22:32:59
In reply to Pride (In the name of love) » daisym, posted by Aphrodite on December 5, 2004, at 19:25:50
I don't think it is a charade. I think it is a spiral that we both keep going through because the feelings of attachment feel really good, but we don't think they SHOULD feel good, because it contradicts our organizing principal of independence. And our brains are useless to counteract the feelings. Which is REALLY scary, because as overachievers we can usually think our way to a clear plan of action. And the fact that the feelings are too da*n big to stuff down just intensifies our resolve to stuff them anyway. Like the grinch with that Christmas tree up the chimney!
And then somewhere along the way, we realize how stupid it is to keep stuffing the tree up the chimney and we relax for a few minutes and notice how good we feel when we aren't stuffing. And then we notice that we feel good and "gasp!" we worry about crashing again, so we take back control...and it starts up again.
I can accurately describe it, I just can't get off the merry-go-round yet.
btw, I met Bono. I flew on a plane with U2 about 18 years ago. They were all very nice. :)
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