Posted by Dinah on November 20, 2004, at 22:37:18
In reply to Re: Pfinstegg? Daisy? Others who know what I mean?, posted by daisym on November 20, 2004, at 21:56:40
Believe it or not, he frequently asks me that question. I don't know whether he realizes that I won't fire him and asks it to politely let me know that I can like or lump something, or if he genuinely thinks it's possible I could fire him. I kind of think, all things considered, that it must be the former.
It came up because I was telling him how moving out of the memories felt like moving from one ego state to the other. And that I realized that it was because both involved self hypnosis. And I asked him if it was "bad" to self hypnotize to come on a regular basis. Because some people would think it *was* bad to do something so deliberate, you know. There's reams and reams of internet articles saying so. ;)
So we talked about that, and he said he didn't think it was bad because by doing that, I didn't do the self destructive things I used to do. So in practice, it works, it's helpful, and not to worry about being deliberate about doing it.
But once my brain started wandering down that path, I couldn't help wondering whether he would prefer if I sometimes *didn't* self hypnotize, and that I came as rational me. And he answered that he thought that might be a good idea. At which point emotional me told him that not only did I not want to give up session time, but that I wanted him to by *my* (emotional me's) therapist. Because, you know, couples or family therapy isn't the same as individual. It's a totally different thing when the therapist has one client, whose needs are primary to him, or more than one where maybe the relationship is primary to him.
It led to a sort of amusing discussion of whether rational me would have a separate therapist, or if he could be a therapist to emotional me and a consultant to rational me. Amusing in that it sounds ridiculous to recount it. Not that it wasn't completely serious and weighty in importance.
Make any sense?
poster:Dinah
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