Posted by alexandra_k on November 12, 2004, at 16:30:36
In reply to Glimmers of beyond ... what next?, posted by crushedout on November 11, 2004, at 23:15:27
> I guess things have been going pretty well. The break from my T (for all those who know *my* saga) seems to be doing me good. I feel like I'm getting small glimmers of life beyond her. It's like she's cast this huge shadow over my life and the light is now only *beginning* to peek through the cracks. Maybe. It's kind of a relief.
Wow, that sounds great! There is light at the end of the tunnel and it sounds like you are starting to be able to move on a little.
> I still have so much to figure out with the consulting T, though. Whether, and if so, when, to see T1 again. Whether to terminate if I do see her. How to terminate. Do I need to have someone else lined up first? Do I need to be in therapy? What do I tell T1? Do I lay blame or is that not helpful? Do I express anger at her for her failing me, for hurting me, for being so careless with my fragile self? Do I do it in a letter?It sounds to me like you are much better off without her. From what I do know about your situation it sounds like your therapy relationship got pretty intense there from both sides and that you would be better off with someone who is a little more centered with their own boundaries. I don't think that blame helps very much (it just results in anger) though you probably do need to talk through what happened with your new therapist at some point. It sounds like there is (understandably) a lot of hurt there.
I am fond of emails myself. Seeing her again might just bring back all those feelings. I am not sure that would be helpful for you in the long run.
Keep us informed of what happens for you.
All the best.
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