Posted by sunny10 on November 1, 2004, at 15:21:17
In reply to Is it my therapist...or me?, posted by Bent on November 1, 2004, at 14:30:29
I hate feeling conflicted, like you describe.
It's possible that the T didn't kow you were have an issue with the attachment. Logically, it seems that she was trying to talk you out of leaving at first, but by the time you two next met, she figured out that you were concerned about the attachment issue- and she may feel that you're correct, which would explain her not "having a problem" with terminating.
I really do think that your T has your best interests at heart. You said yourself that didn't even bring up those issues to the T.
Talk about the issue at hand- attachments- then talk with her about terminating. If she knows where your head is, she'll be able to react accordingly.
I expect my T to "sense" when I'm not telling her everything- and I know it's unfair of me... telling her to solve the puzzle while I'm hiding some pieces, knowingly, under the carpet, but I haven't gotten down to "firing her". I hope that I am strong enough to even get anything out of this therapy business.
And I have the same question as you, only about a different issue. Modality. The T I have is no-nonsense, deal with the here and now, learn skills, et cetera.
Psychologists have "admitted" to my having "inner child issues", but not one has ever tried to talk to that inner child- to make her feel better.
I only ever find T's who want you to "learn skills to think differently"... yet no one has given me a lesson book to study...am I supposed to learn this stuff out of thin air??
Is it ANYONE's T or is it THEM?
Yikes, chicken and egg thing again....I feel your pain; am sharing it, too, today...
-sunny10
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