Posted by just plain jane on October 24, 2004, at 15:13:32
In reply to Re: Leaving » just plain jane, posted by Dinah on October 24, 2004, at 9:15:11
Yes, Dinah,
You are very correct. There are people I trust in certain situations, to a point.
I trust any T I go to see with the information I share, and to give me constructive feedback, but I can't establish a dependency on them.
I actually did, years ago, have a T I got close to, and he tried to turn the closeness into something else. OOOOOPS, there goes that trust violation.
As for when to leave, I'm compulsive about not overstaying, even if we started late. If there's another appoontment after mine, I can't take time from them. If there's not another appointment after mine, I may stay for a bit if my T is continuing, but always try to close before she seems ready. I hate the idea of using up someone else's time.
I guess my attitudes have kept me from getting far enough along with any T who plays head games with their power, use transference for their own amusement or what ever it is they get.
I'm there for a reason. If that reason is not what's going on, there's something wrong, to me.
I guess it all boils down to my trust thing, eh?
:-0jpj
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