Posted by Daisym on October 20, 2004, at 22:13:56
In reply to Re: I still want to trade therapists with Daisy, posted by fallsfall on October 20, 2004, at 21:31:46
I might be willing to share with YOU Dinah, it is just that "sharing" is a special trigger today. (I love you Falls! Thanks for protecting me.) Sometimes I envy you your security though. I guess the grass is always greener.
I agree with everyone else. I think there must be a class that teaches them how to assess the danger. Even in my business, we are taught what "it" might look like, as we deal with a lot of depressed moms. You don't really fit the profile very well in some places, (women with young children) so I'm guessing your therapist was trying to get a sense of how detailed your thinking is. I think it is also in some ways to make you sick of it...sort of like the techniques for handling si. I get sort of mortified most of the time when talking about it. This last time I was pretty matter of fact. I think I actually said to him, "now don't freak out but..." and I told him more than he had asked.
All that said, I'm sorry you felt pushed and questioned. I would wish for you support and understanding. It sort of helped to hear that he would be devastated, instead of wondering if he would be angry. And it helped to process those feelings of despair with him, instead of alone.
Of course, today I actually was able to articulate what I needed to hear and I was able to take in all that reassurance. So I'm feeling pretty good about our relationship. If you had asked me this last week, when I was in the serious throws of fighting the dependency again, I would have outright given him to you. (don't tell, K?)
Seriously, I wish I knew how to make it better for you. You know your therapist cares so much about you, he is just doing what he can to protect you. He won't terminate, he might hospitalize. Mine told me on Monday that the more details I get into place, the less time he has to act. So at some point, he will take action and I won't like it. I of course said, "I don't have to tell you." His answer was, "I know, but I want you to and you promised." *sigh*
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